A few years ago, my husband, son and I went to France for a vacation, to the beautiful French Riviera.

And I got lost.

Well and truly lost.

Lost in the way that I just knew I would never be found, and that I might even die.

Hours and hours alone, not knowing how to find my way back home.

Dehydration and irrational thinking and the existential feeling that maybe only those who are near death face.

Well, I thought I was near death anyway.

Basically, my son and husband had taken a day trip to Monaco and I’d stayed back to spend the day at the beach.

And then, late afternoon, I headed back to the villa, and I couldn’t find my bearings.

I had no cell phone, no key, no ID even.

The streets of the village were serpentine and every doorway looked identical to the all the others along the cobblestone street.

So I backtracked and retraced my steps at each turn, over and over – for several hours

By early evening, my irritation grew into apprehension. And then nervousness. And the temperature was slipping fast, I was getting cold.

Does this look right? Is this familiar?

I tried to tamp down the panic. I thought I was sensible; I’d found where our rental car was parked, figuring that the guys would eventually make their way to it.

Or so I reasoned.

Finally, still in my damp bathing suit, I sat with my legs stretched out under the car’s wheel well, to catch the residue of the engine’s warmth.

My teeth were chattering.

This wasn’t looking good.

And then, close to midnight, my son emerged from the dark.

And when I saw him across the road, I starting crying uncontrollably; I was so ashamed.

I felt pitiful: I was a clueless, middle-aged tourist with no sense of direction.

The shame filled my frigid body, down to my frozen feet.

In the end, my body eclipsed all reason. Everything felt disconnected.

It’s been years since that event happened, but occasionally the memory pricks at me.

This past February, I got Covid (finally) and the virus triggered a haze of depression that I am just now coming out of.

I am surfacing from the dark.

I’ve started taking short walks in our new neighborhood, but I feel like an invalid with little endurance. I lift my heavy legs and try to feel my muscles.

I try to connect my body to my brain. Both are sluggish and out of sync.

But I have started to feel stonger.

Even so, when I look down at my shoes, there is the worn, near colorless grey of the sidewalk. It is like the grey that swirls in my mind.

At times I am dull and numb and I can’t remember my sense of humor, or any particularly positive thing about myself.

And lately I’ve thought about being lost, both in France, and at home.

And the memory comes back to me, of shivering on that cold night, how alone I felt.

It occurred to me how disappointed I was that my family couldn’t somehow read my mind to locate me. Like a mental GPS.

But not many people know us well enough to always offer a lifesaving rope when we’re clinging on the precipice.

And no one ever completely understands what we are going through, what is swirling around in our brains.

And that brings me back to today, and the fact that I have struggled to write about the past few months.

I have given up and given in to the idea that none of this is worth writing about.

But then I think about the fact that at the end of the story, it was okay.

So I’m holding out some hope that what I say and how I try to describe myself will resonate with you.

And I hope to keep on writing even in these grey spaces.

It feels dull and boring, but it makes the healing time go faster.

And it makes me feel a little bit better as I go.