Last weekend, I was babysitting my grandson, and, as I was sitting on the couch, he laid his little head down on my thigh, and sighed, and said “my Gigi”.

Oh, to be claimed liked that.

It was one of those sweet grandparenting moments. One of those times where you feel special, you are singled out, receiving love that is neither asked for nor expected – it is just a gift.

This whole grandparent trip has been like this. I never expected to love him like this, to delight in his every expression and mood.

Or to have him reciprocate.

He sometimes cries when I have to leave him, and my heart just aches.

I get it, I am just as sad to say goodbye.

Grandchildren are not ours to train up, or spoil, they are here to teach us the lesson of time:

That we only have these brief moments to experience what they have to offer us.

My grandson will only be 18 months old for a short time. And he won’t want to rest his cheek on mine for much longer.

He won’t light up when he spots me across the room.

He will eventually reach an age where I am mostly irrelevent, even an embarassment, and that is how it is.

Our years of striving to be perfect parents are over, now we can rest in the ease of acceptance and know: we are enough.

And for now, I am a hand to hold while navigating the sidewalk curb, a push of the little trike over the grass.

I am the reader of the book with all of the animal sounds, over and over again.

I am a witness to his first sentences, like “high up in the sky” as he points to the airplane above our heads.

And I think to myself, how, like the plane, he too will travel, far away from me, as the years pass.

And my heart breaks a little.

I think of this time in my life like the transition from afternoon to sunset – the gloaming – that tiny, magical moment when the sky casts a shimmery, otherworldly aspect.

I think of this time in my life like the transition from afternoon to sunset – the gloaming – that brief, magical moment when the sky casts a shimmery aspect.

So breathtaking, so transformative, so brief.

And while our daughter and son-in-law are doing the everyday hard stuff, we can glory in the joy of this special view.

And tonight, I think about his little sticky fingers grabbing at my shirt, willing me not to go.

How his tiny grip is surprisingly strong.

And how lucky I am.

I am necessary, I am loved, I am claimed, even for just a moment.